JewishEncyclopedia.com

The unedited full-text of the 1906 Jewish Encyclopedia
- Phrase search: "names of god"
- Exclude terms: "names of god" -zerah
- Volume/Page: v9 p419
- Diacritics optional: Ḥanukkah or hanukkah
- Search by Author: altruism author:Hirsch
search tips & recommendations

REBUKE AND REPROOF:

"Faithful are the wounds of a friend," says the Old Testament proverb (Prov. xxvii. 6), doubtless referring to reproof. A mild rebuke administered for a breach of etiquette, or for an act of disrespect, was called "haḳpadah"; a severe rebuke, as for contempt of authority, was known as "nezifah." In both cases, however, the offense involved is unintentional. They are thus distinguished from cases that are punishable by the declaration of the Ban, nezifah involving a mild form of ostracism (see Excommunication).

A rebuff to a friend for a breach of etiquette is mentioned in a case in which R. Ḥiyya called at the house of Raba, but neglected to wipe his feet before he sat on the couch. Desiring to express disapproval of his conduct, Raba rebuked him indirectly, propounding to him a legal question (Shab. 46a, b).

R. Johanan expressed indignation because his disciple Eleazar lectured in the bet ha-midrash on a certain subject without recognizing the authority of his master (Yeb. 96b). R. Joseph reproached R. Ze'era because he had insinuated that the former had had so many masters that he was apt to confound his sources; he indignantly asserted that his only master was R. Judah (Ḥul. 18b).

The manner of showing disapprobation is illustrated by R. Sheshet, who stretched out his neck snakelike toward R. Ḥisda for omitting certain portions which the former thought should be inserted when saying grace (Ber. 49a). R. Judah I., in his desire to maintain strict discipline among his disciples, rebuked them whenever they fell short in respect for his authority, although their lapses were unwitting. R. Simeon, son of Rabbi, and Bar Ḳappara were studying together when they came to a difficult passage. R. Simeon suggested that it be submitted to his father, whereupon Bar Ḳappara remarked, "How can Rabbi solve it?" The next time Bar Ḳappara appeared before Rabbi the latter turned to him and said, "I do not recognize thee." Bar Ḳappara considered this as a nezifah, though Rabbi probably intended only a haḳpadah.

A similar incident occurred when Rabbi ordered that his disciples should not study in the street. R. Ḥiyya and his two cousins disregarded the order. When Ḥiyya next went to see Rabbi the latter said, "Art thou not wanted outside?" Ḥiyya understood this question as a rebuke, and remained away thirty days (M. Ḳ. 16a, b; see Gen. R. xxxiii. 3).

A delicate question presents itself to the preacher as to how far he may remonstrate with a friend in regard to impropriety of conduct. Indeed, R. Ṭarfon doubted the advisability of forcing the issue, since few are willing to accept a rebuke. "If a preacher says, 'Take out the mote from thy eye,' a friend retorts, 'Take out the beam from thine own eye'" (comp. Matt. vii. 3). Rab said a preacher should remonstrate with his friend until the latter resents violently; R. Joshua said, until he curses; but R. Johanan thinks the limit should be a mere rebuke. They all refer to Jonathan's remonstrance with Saul in regard to David ('Er. 16b). See Anathema.

J. J. D. E.
Images of pages